The New Homeless
Monday, August 1, 2011 at 02:16PM 
They are instantaneously recognizable—their fear is unmistakable. Their clothing is clean, matching and often they are trailing a large suitcase. They hang back timidly, tears welling up in their eyes. The environment is crowded and chaotic. The staff is crazily busy, and the mix of people is representative of those who society deems unwanted. Most often it is the very first time that they have even met or spoken to a homeless person—perhaps they are remembering how they averted their eyes to avoid seeing what can now no longer be avoided.
This day is the first day of their homelessness.
If they are lucky, they will speak to a staff person who will give them a dizzying array of information and resources. If they are even luckier, they will speak to another homeless person who will guide them for a few days, showing them where to eat, where to sleep, and, most important of all, the places that are dangerous to them. This is important knowledge, certainly, and sometimes lifesaving information. However, there is more subtle knowledge to be had, much of which involves unlearning the conventional values of our culture.
We are taught to value our possessions and to care for them well. It makes housed people angry sometimes when they see their donations carelessly strewn on the ground and abandoned or thrown away. Yet, when you must carry all your possessions on your back, how do you choose which to keep? By weight? By season of the year? By financial value? By sentiment or emotion? Each decision must be carefully made. Even a day of pulling a suitcase with you makes it crystal clear that you must lighten your load.
We are taught to protect others. It shocks the middle class listener to learn that protecting a person they perceive as vulnerable may in fact profoundly endanger a homeless person. There may be alliances, business relationships, previous sexual partnerships, and acts of revenge simmering under the surface appearance of any conflict. The conflict that appears unjust may be a beating in return for the rape of a friend or girlfriend. Vigilante justice sounds unappealing but at times it is the only justice people feel is available. Even one day of acknowledging the nature and power of the alliances that spur on this vengefulness is frightening.
We are taught to trust the police and believe that they will protect us. Once you have slipped down this particular rabbit hole, you learn that the power of the police is far greater than you may ever have known as a housed person. You can be stopped for any reason and asked to produce ID. You can be asked to move locations even if your behavior is completely law-abiding. You can be arrested for sleeping (or in some states) for being fed in a public place. Most police are trustworthy but there are those that hate homeless people and to question them can be dangerous.
We are taught to tell the truth. Yet, telling the truth can keep you homeless longer. Those that are known to be homeless are discriminated against in employment and housing. In the crazy byzantine world of human services, if you tell the truth, you may well come up against eligibility requirements; catch 22 rules, and the terrible scarcity of resources necessary for day-to-day survival.
Before you judge the person whom you think has blithely lied to you or used your donation carelessly, consider how little you may know about how to survive in this world. If it is your turn to stand hesitantly in the doorway of a homeless shelter, you may learn to perceive the world differently.
Joy Eckstine is executive director at the Carriage House Community Table in Boulder, a licensed clinical social worker and a level III addiction counselor.
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